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Wednesday, 4 April 2018

Swimming with my baby

Well it's been a while since I last posted anything, let me catch you up.

(don't worry it gets happier)
About a month after my last post we found out we were pregnant, a few weeks later we sadly miscarried. It was very early in the pregnancy which sometimes makes me feel like I don't have a right to be sad about it. But I do have that right and I do feel sad, it upsets me that this is still a taboo subject when so many women go through it, I'm not suggesting everyone makes public announcements about it but nobody should be made to feel like they can't talk about it. I'm not ashamed that it happened, I did nothing wrong and since then we have been lucky enough to become proud parents to our beautiful rainbow baby born in August 17.

Said baby (Isaac) is now over 7 months old and I can't believe how quickly that has gone. During pregnancy I managed to get away with only gaining about half a stone. Unfortunately before pregnancy and after giving birth I seem to have put on a great deal more than that, resulting in very few of my clothes fitting.

Isaac has been swimming since he was about 3 months old, luckily for me Daniel was perfectly happy to get in the pool with him as there was no way I was getting in a swimming costume. Isaac has completed several underwater swims in class which Daniel has had the opportunity to see (thanks to prescription goggles). Recently he had an underwater photo shoot which produced some stunning photos.


Last weekend we went away for a few days to a holiday camp and I decided to see if one of my swimming costumes would fit, turned out I could still fit in to my maternity costume (not sure if that's a good thing or not). I decided to brave it in a public pool so that I could experience Isaac's underwater swimming myself. As nervous as I was being in a swimming costume in public while being extremely unhappy with how my body looks I can now say it was totally worth it. 
I've watched every one of Isaac's swimming lessons from the side of the pool so I know most of what they practice. Daniel and I took it in turns holding Isaac and taking him through some of the activities. With the help of Daniels old (non prescription) goggles I plunged myself underwater while Daniel sent Isaac under; when I came up I wanted to cry, some of which could have been relief from managing to get myself underwater but mostly it was because of the gorgeous view I had under there, my baby boy smiling at me while making his way to the surface. I know he loves his swimming lessons and now that I've seen him underwater myself I know that he is confident in the water and that we made the best decision by taking him to these lessons.
I'm still not brave enough to get the costume out again for his lessons and I know that both Isaac and Daniel enjoy this bonding time so I have no need to. If I brave my costume again then great but for now I have that beautiful image of my little water baby etched in my mind and that's good enough for me. 

Thursday, 4 August 2016

Dream Wedding......

Quite often I've heard varying versions of 'every girl wants to feel like a princess for the day' and 'all girls walked round with a pillow case as a veil when they were little'
I happen to disagree!
I don't remember ever thinking much about what I wanted my wedding day to be like, I had dreams about being married and happy but not much thought about a wedding. The older I got the less I thought I would ever get married anyway so my thoughts went more to just being happy in a relationship.
Quite early on in our relationship we discussed our thoughts on weddings and came to the same conclusion that starting off married life together heavily in debt for one day was not what we wanted. Neither of us like being the centre of attention so we knew it would be a low key affair. We planned on buying a house together and so money was obviously an issue, I know though that even if money was no object we would still have done things the way we did.

After Daniel proposed things moved quite quickly, we gave ourselves a budget and were keen to keep as close as possible to it. I found bridesmaid dresses on sale and kept my fingers crossed that they would still fit by the wedding (they did), I made mine and the bridesmaids bouquets from comic books and ribbon. We made our own invites and place settings and my sister decorated our shoes. Daniels mum made ties for the groom, best man and father of the groom. I bought a dress and sold it, bought a second dress and loved it, it's not a bridal gown so I can wear it again.

We opted for a late afternoon register office ceremony followed by a meal in a local pub. The register office could hold 60 guests, we invited 63 of our closest friends and family, 59 were there on the day.
We wanted people to enjoy the day and be comfortable, there were no rules on outfits and guests were given the option of joining in on our superhero theme; we had bubbles to keep people occupied during photo time and our cakes were themed too.


We had a fantastic day there was no stress, we even cooked breakfast for some of our guests on the morning of the wedding.
In Daniels speech he thanked everyone for joining us to celebrate our special day, although in his words that special day was actually the day we first met and every day from now on would also be special.
Totaling up everything we bought including both my dresses, thank you gifts and the night in a hotel we had our dream wedding for less than £1600. The sun was shining and I married the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, after all that's what it's all about.